If you are in a codependent relationship you will feel it is your responsibility to constantly make the other person happy, and that you don’t know who you are without them.ĭespite telling yourself that you just ‘really love’ the other person, codependency is not a healthy way of relating. Codependency involves taking your sense of self and worth from another person, instead of developing it within. In a romantic relationship and experiencing panic attacks at the thought of your partner not being around?įear of losing loved ones can hide a problem with codependency.Or who is too paranoid to move out or go to university in case your single parent ‘dies’ without you?.Are you a teenager who is afraid of your mother dying?.Fear of losing loved ones and codependency But we can find support to learn new ways of being, and take steps forward so that we no longer feel overwhelmed at the idea of being responsible for navigating our own life. We can’t stop other people around us from one day dying. Why is it so important to admit to these ‘fears beneath the fear’? They are actually easier to deal with. So sometimes we use a fear of losing loved ones to hide other fears we are more ashamed of, like fear of: Loss of a loved one an easy thing to place all our worries on because it is an acceptable anxiety. Anxiety symptoms kick in, which can include: The more we think about losing the loved person in question, the worse we feel.
We feel our life would be over without the other person. But in general, we realise we would cope.Īn unhealthy fear of losing loved ones is more like a rising anxiety, and comes with extreme thinking.
It can mean a moment spent considering our own mortality. A healthy or unhealthy fear?Ī normal fear of loss involves worry and sadness when we think about our loved ones moving on, followed by an understanding it’s an unavoidable fact of life.
Modern psychologists call this common fear plain old ‘death anxiety’. So there can be a certain amount of fear simply because we don’t fully know what we would be dealing with.įreud coined a fear of death and dying ‘ thanatophobia‘, and felt we all suffer from it because we refuse to accept our mortality. We also don’t talk enough about death in modern culture. We enjoy their company, and know life would be very different without them. Yes, it’s normal to not want the people we love to die. Is a fear of losing loved ones always on your mind? Are you worried about losing a parent, or a a partner dying? Is a fear of losing loved ones normal?
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